The Journey and Expectations

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I’ve been on a weight loss journey for nearly a year and half now. I can easily say it has been one of the hardest journeys of my life. When I first sighed up for this journey I never thought I’d have to deal with heartache, frustration, anger, loss, failure and expectations. I knew I’d face road blocks but no one ever said I’d face them more than once.

Now here is something interesting for all of you to know. I am a certified Weight Release Energetix┬« coach. I primarily deal with the emotional or empathy part of the weight because let’s face it, a lot of is turn to food as comfort. During my training I lost over 60 pounds and was beside myself. This was all done by simply eating clean and mindful while dealing with the emotional reasons I turned to food.

This was done without the help of exercise but I needed and wanted to tone up certain areas of my body. So like any other individual wanting a healthier lifestyle I started working out. It was exhausting, frustrating and rewarding all at the same time. Here is what I’ve struggled with the most.

Expectations from others and yourself can often time hinder your progress. Everyone expects to see some form of results when they exert themselves but when you don’t you start to doubt and feel failure breathing down your neck. I knew and expected to gain muscle but it didn’t prepare me for having to face a fear of the dreaded scale.

Once the muscle started packing on the numbers were going up and I was panicking. I’ve always believed that when you work hard and exercise you’re going to lose pounds. I expected to see that but it never came. Then as if my own expectations not being met were not enough I had to face the expectations of others. All of a sudden it was as if I was being graded on my progress. Other people expected me to be at a certain place that eventually I began to believe it and I owned it as a truth.

After accepting and owning their expectations of my progress I became a failure in their eyes as well as my own. Somehow along the way I lost the passion and purpose for why I started the journey in the first place. I questioned my efforts daily and instead of seeing the small milestones I had accomplished I dismissed them. I was no longer looking at myself through my own eyes. I was only seeing the reflection of what others expected of me that my own identity got lost.

Here is my advice if you seem to be struggling with your journey or path.

1. See yourself through your own eyes
Never forget that you are special, magnificent, amazing and a miracle all wrapped up in a package called a body. When you look at yourself daily be sure that you see yourself clearly. You are both ally and challenger to yourself. Choose carefully.

2. Acknowledge the WINS
No matter how small they are acknowledge them. When you recognize something amazing write it down in a journal. You can then use this as a reminder on days when you need extra encouragement.

3. Never compare
Everyone is different and the journeys are never the same. The moment you start to compare your progress to someone else’s is the moment you set yourself up for failure. A wise person once said,

All roads lead to Rome, the journeys just a bit different.

4. Honor yourself
Never be hard on yourself. Love yourself when you need to, celebrate when you can and challenge yourself. Listen to your heart, mind, body and spirit. Sometimes you will need to rest and know that it’s okay.

Everything in life is a journey and it’s meant to teach us many things. Enjoy it, live it and more importantly LOVE it. Remember why you’re doing what you’re doing, refocus if you need to but never do it for the wrong reasons.